Category: Love and Relationships


It ‘s right around the corner. That day that is reserved for couples, those looking for love, and those hopeless romantics dizzy with the sweet drug that is love; Valentine’s Day. Now for some, Valentine’s proves to be a day that all the romantic stops are pulled and the profession of undying amore is shouted from the rooftops. Hearts, cherubs, sickly sweet love songs, and dewy, doe-eyed gazes dominate one 24 hour period.

Then there are those who this day symbolizes the rank underbelly of love. Those who view all of the pomp and circumstance of the day as a bunch of commercialized bullpucky. Love has kicked them in the teeth, it has sucked the very essence of their life leaving them a dried husk of a human.  Love stinks. Yeah, Yeah.

I fall into the second category. Well, not entirely. I do have a very health disbelief of needing one day to proclaim a year’s worth of love to your paramour. I believe that you should profess your love  and more importantly SHOW that special someone you love them every day. That being beside that point, let’s talk turkey…

This year, astrologically speaking, is going to hand us a craptastic Valentine’s Day. Woo Hoo! Misery to all of those gushingly happy sots that plan to over spend, over plan, and over expect all the warm fuzziness ( and subsequent nookie) the day is supposed to bring.  With Mars floating through his retrograde (yup, another biggie doing the retrograde boogie) there could be fights, arguments, cheating, and break-ups. Run for the hills, young lovers. I suggest either celebrating early or hold off until the next weekend. Just don’t expect anything really great to happen on VD, unless you like discord and fisticuffs.

Ah, heck! What am I saying? I am hopeless (and hapless) romantic that still thinks that her dreamboat will still make port. I am just going to stay inside on Feb. 14th and wait until the Valentine’s candy goes half price.

Love, Light and Happiness!

Crabby

 

How to Look Good Naked

Got you with the title, didn’t I?

Get your mind out of the gutter, you dirty, little Beasties!

Looking good naked is not about creams or potions that will remove wrinkles, blast the bulges, or how to coif your hinter-regions into a topiary of passion. Though that might not hurt some!

Rather, looking good naked is removing the masks and cover-ups that we all wear to try to protect ourselves from being hurt.

There isn’t a person I know, either personally or virtually, that has not been devastated by a failed relationship. I am the Queen of Crash and Burn Relationships (all hail the Queen!). Each time one fails, a new layer of protection goes on, a new brick is placed in the wall that we build to keep the hurt way. What happens after a while is that we camouflage our true selves and only present a facade to the world. Then we forge ahead with a fake persona, attract the wrong people with this doppelganger of who we are, and repeat the process, usually with more dismal results. An evil cycle that repeats itself until we get so fed up that we give up.

Let’s get metaphysical (or if you’re a cute, Scorpio compatible dude, physical. Just kidding). Our energy is like polarized magnets. What we radiate out is what we attract back. So if we are project false or veiled energy to the world we will attract people who are abysmally wrong for us. We end up unhappy, disgusted and exhausted from having to keep up the charade.

So you say, “Crabby, what ever can I do to attract Mr. Right For Me?”

I say STRIP! Forget the pole, I don’t mean for you to take center stage at Wiggles. Strip away all the “clothing” that covers the inner, true you.

Become an artichoke and peel back the leaves that cover the inner beauty of who you are. Face the world raw, unfettered, and totally real.Be happy with who and what you are.  Be comfortable in your own skin. Dare to present the Universe with the true you and see what you get back and let your freak flag fly! That is looking good naked.

This is one of the hardest self-improvement projects that I have ever done.

Truth is,I was sabotaging myself by cloaking and distorting my true personality and feelings (just so I wouldn’t get hurt) and that was bringing Mr. Wrong to the table. I stopped, looked at what I was hiding from, and then, Poof! Things started to improve, DRASTICALLY. I took up the banner of personal nudity. I went NAKED. No make-up, no holds barred Crabby and if you didn’t like it, see ya! I was NAKED and FREE! Woo Hoo! I’m still REALLY single, but darn it, much happier!

You can do this. I know you can. It’s hard, it hurts, and it won’t happen overnight. But when you come out the other side, all sparkling and real, look out world, here you come!

Be yourself. Love yourself. Look good naked.

Love, Light and Happiness,
Crabby

By Janet Moon

“He doesn’t hit me, so there is no abuse in my relationship.” There is a lot more to domestic violence than just battery. The emotional wounds can run very deep, and actually take longer to heal than the physical ones.

In this article I refer to the abuser as “he,” because most reported cases of domestic violence the male is the abuser (but it does sometimes happens the other way). I will focus on the typical signs of emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, and how to identify if you are in an abusive relationship.
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